The slaying of 17-year-old Jordan Davis by a white man who didn't appreciate his taste in music had some black people scrambling to give black boys "the talk" about how not to scare white people into shooting them.
John Guns, pastor of St. Paul Missionary Baptist Church in Jacksonville, Fla., was one of them.
Using the trial of 47-year-old Michael Dunn - who, on Nov. 23, 2012, fired nine bullets into the SUV that Jordan and two of his friends were sitting in after he argued with the teens over loud music - as a launching point, Guns talked to black boys about the importance of not exacerbating trouble with people who might be threatened by them and their skin.
At one point Guns brought a young man up on the stage who was wearing a hoodie - which Trayvon Martin was wearing in February 2012 when he was stalked and fatally shot by George Zimmerman - and told him that whenever he walked inside a store, he needed to take the hood off. Better to walk out of the store, he said, than to wind up being killed at age 18 for ... well, scaring some squirrely store owner into thinking you were there to rob the place.
To be sure, Guns' advice is sound and pragmatic - and a lot of black parents who love their children are probably repeating it. I understand it.
But I don't like it.
I don't like it because as practical as it is, it inadvertently feeds the notion that black youths, and black males in particular, ought to capitulate to racist whites in order not to suffer at their hands.
And any white man who believes that black kids ought to turn down their music because he doesn't like it, even if they are only sharing the same parking lot for a few minutes, isn't seeking respect.
He's expecting submission.
Any white store owner, or night watchman, who expects a black youth to take off his hood because it scares him, even though that black youth has no plans to do anything scary, isn't asking for respect but for his irrational fears to be coddled.
Most of all, I don't like it because we've been through this before.
In the 2002 book "Remembering Jim Crow: African Americans Tell About Life in the Segregated South," Charles Gratton recalled his mother's instructions when she sent him to the grocery store. She told him, "If you pass any white people on your way, get off the sidewalk. Give them the sidewalk. Don't challenge white people."
Similarly, many black people who grew up during Jim Crow times remember being told not to look white people in the eye and to avoid doing things that might get them hurt or killed for being defiant or, as they would say back then, uppity.
A refusal to turn down music or take off a hoodie could translate into being uppity for whites like Dunn, who believe that black youths - who, like many of their white counterparts, are grappling with awkwardness and immaturity - owe it to them to suppress their attitude.
I get that it's important to give black youths the advice they need to be able to live to fight another day, as Guns and others are doing. But we cannot forget the importance of fighting conditions, such as Florida's "Stand your ground" law, that feed the idea that whites like Dunn can get away with fatally shooting a black youth like Jordan because he and his friends didn't comply with their request.
We cannot forget, because something is horribly wrong when, more than a half-century after legal segregation ended, when we have a black man sitting in the Oval Office, Jim Crow-era instructions are being revived to protect black youths. These instructions have little to do with young black people being respectful to white strangers and everything to do with them being submissive to whites - with black youths giving white strangers permission to cling to fears about blackness by not being so, well, black.
And when we make black youths solely responsible for not frightening white people with their music or their style of dress or their swagger, we absolve white people of their responsibility to unlearn the stereotypes that are scaring them.
We cannot forget - because if we do, the next thing you know, we'll be telling our kids to give up the sidewalk to white people. Again.
Tonyaa Weathersbee is an award-winning columnist based in Jacksonville, Fla.