LOWER TOWNSHIP — The Villas mother of 2-year-old twin girls who died after she was shot in her home this week was a sweet, outgoing and kindhearted woman who could light up any room she was in, her mother said Friday.
Destiny Rollar, 22, also a hairdresser, loved life and loved children, and everyone loved her, Dorothy Burton, Rollar’s mother, said in a phone call Friday.
“She was amazing, she was everything,” said Burton, of Millville, remembering Rollar. “She was the type of person that if she saw a stranger that was in need, she would just give them the shirt off her back.”
Rollar’s life was cut short Wednesday, when she was found shot in the head in her home. Authorities said Rollar’s boyfriend, Charles A. Bland, 25, also the father of her children, has been charged with murder in her killing.
“It’s been really rough on all of us,” Burton said. “We didn’t see this coming.”
That day, Burton said she knew something was wrong — Rollar didn’t show up for work on time, which was rare. She worked as a hairdresser at Great Clips in Rio Grande and had recently been promoted, Burton said, so she called the police and asked them to check on her daughter.
Police found Rollar at 10:24 a.m. Wednesday in the home with a gunshot wound. She died after she was airlifted to the hospital, Cape May County Prosecutor Jeffrey H. Sutherland and Lower Township police Chief William Mastriana said in a joint statement Thursday. Rollar’s children were found unharmed at a family member’s home in Philadelphia, police said.
Bland was located in a hospital in Philadelphia, where he was being treated for a self-inflicted, nonlife-threatening gunshot wound, the prosecutor’s office said. He was taken into custody by Philadelphia police and was charged Thursday in the killing, the statement said.
Burton said Rollar was an “amazing” mother to her two young girls and has overcome challenges throughout her life, including having been diagnosed with a congenital disorder when she was young. But she didn’t let it stop her, Burton said.
“She had goals in her life, and plans,” Burton said, adding that she feels like she lost a best friend and a daughter. “We talked every day. There wasn’t a day that passed that we didn’t say one word to each other.”
After Rollar was found, Lower Township police and the Cape May County Prosecutor’s Office started a joint investigation.
It was a quiet afternoon Friday in the neighborhood surrounding the small, purple home where Rollar was found. A few white flowers in a single vase were placed on the ground outside the white fence in the front yard near East Virginia and Mowery avenues.
Some neighbors said the street is usually quiet. Several homes are occupied by families who visit on weekends and during the summers, and others are up for sale or neighbors had moved out.
“It’s very quiet here,” said Sandy Scott, 57, who lives across the intersection near the home. “That day, it was something else. I couldn’t believe it.”
Scott said she saw a large emergency response outside Rollar’s home that morning and police were in the neighborhood asking people what they saw. She said she didn’t know Rollar or Bland personally but would see them now and then outside the home and heard the children when they would be outside.
Bland has also been charged with aggravated assault, possession of a weapon for an unlawful purpose and hindering apprehension, police said. He awaits extradition to Cape May County.
After Rollar was taken to the hospital, the family decided to donate some of her organs — helping people, just as Rollar always did.
“She’s saving so many other people,” Burton said.
The investigation is ongoing, authorities said. Anyone with information can call the Prosecutor’s Office at 609-465-1135, anonymously report it on the Cape May County Sheriff’s Tip Line at cmcsheriff.net or call Cape May County Crime Stoppers at 609-465-2800.